Sunday, November 9, 2025

Self-Control, Self-Discipline & Christian Growth

 Greetings in Jesus’ Name!

This week we look at self-discipline and self-control

These principles have a very clear role in human growth; from a Christian perspective, we treat them as synonymous. Basic refs. are

Old Testament:

Psalm 40:8

I delight to do thy will, O my God, because they law is within my heart.

Find your will within God’s will – it’s not a bunch of ‘don’t’s! Just 2 commands is all – walk within these and your strength – physical, emotional, mental – will grow, and so will your ability to influence others for good! You will see the difference and you will know.

Hosea 6:6

I desire mercy, not sacrifice.

Nothing to do with self-denial, which is more often than not a display to impress others or to convince yourself about achieving some sort of godliness or credit with God.  Never a matter of I can’t do this I’m a Christian but one of I don’t want to, rather. You cannot intend doing a good deed; it is always spontaneous.  

 

New Testament:

Matt 23:4

Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me; for my yoke is easy, and my burden is light

This business of control and discipline is not an incredibly difficult thing to do if you walk with God; The Lord will enable you. The ability to shape your life will be the observable result of that walk! Instead of ‘talking’ to God, listen. Practice that little vs that says Be still and know. Relax, and be focused on the One God. Stillness is immense; knowing has incredible depth; whether you think about or look towards for God the Father, God the Son, or God the Holy Spirit does not matter. God is spirit, God is light, God is love.

Mark 9:50

If salt has lost it saltiness, how will you season anything with it?

This again is the result of the vine and branch analogy Jesus speaks of; we cannot decide on our own to be salt and so become it; we grow into it, and once part of it, that growth accelerates, as long as we stay connected to Jesus. We cannot say I am going to be a witness for Christ; this is an inherent result, one that needs no conscious decision, but comes from who you are and what you have become.

See also Ps 24:1; Gal 5:22-23; and James 3:6-10!

Let’s start with ourselves and our discipline and control of our stewardship of the body, which has been given to us for our time on this earth. There is too much to say at one go, so for these few weeks we will open on a single aspect of health, be it mental, physical, or spiritual. From my work in Geriatrics at Duke Univ. years ago, through managing Mass State’s Home Care and Elder Abuse programs, I have learned a few things.

Think about the hardest working muscle in your body – your heart. Even when you sleep or say you will get a little rest, it is still working, 24/7, without stopping, Do not give up on it, and hope that it will not give up on you until the time is right for you to leave. As we age, glycation develops, because of what we eat and how much we eat of it, and our lack of exercise. Heart tissue changes, not for the better. The lack of moderation causes hardening and thickening of heart tissue. If you need cardiac meds, be it high blood pressure or high cholesterol (hyperlipidemia!) and so forth, take them as you should. Work with your Doctor. But do not make the mistake of thinking, ah, I’ve got meds, it is all ok now. It is not. Medicine is not an exact science. It can only do so much and go so far. Much depends on you. It is your body, and you just might have more control over it than you realize.

Develop your own exercise schedule. Slowly, incrementally……and stick to it. It will pay dividends! This is a must for all of us as we age! Check out the Norwegian 4 x 4 x 4 program. Work on it a couple of times a week. It will require discipline. Controlling your diet is no different. You don’t have to give up anything, you just have to moderate everything. It will require control. And so forth. Check with your Doctor if you need to. But do it. It is never too late to start, no matter how incremental you might need to be. I started exercising some 20 yrs ago. Between the boys egging me on and K watching my diet, I have had family on my side! Once you have the 4 x 4 x 4 program beginning, work on split squats and banded glute work. Identify yr own physical weaknesses and strengthen them. Stay functional, maintain your independence, guard against frailty as far as you can possibly do so, and keep within reasonable limits. It is entirely possible to age well. Always be careful not to compromise your health. Not exactly a commodity you can buy.

Now let’s get into self-control and discipline. Realize that behind these ‘principles’ lie both your will and your intent. Will is exercised when we decide to get out of bed. We use our will to power our every action, every day, on everything we decide to do. And this will is used for purpose and intention – be it good or evil. We are what we choose to be. Look around, the examples of choice and behavior are all around us. Very doable. Seems easier to be bad as vs being good? Not really. It’s all in the enabling and that which is behind it.

Few Corporations serve the human condition, unless they are distinctly and carefully

 non-profit. Even then there has always been the spectre of moral limits, with some priests and choir boys. Or other similar or related issues when children, women, the poor and the less fortunate, are all abused. Never mind hiding behind the excuse of ‘sin’. It’s human will and intention. There is no need to get philosophical about the why of it. These are all nothing more than rationalizations. Be wary of them.

The Invitation Jesus gives is to embark on the training of your will under his guidance. Hence John says If the Son shall make you free, you shall be free indeed (8.36) You can choose your habits, lose the harmful, replace them with better ones! And Jesus will help you make it happen. You must just want it to be so. And as noted, it is never a matter of self-denial. Much more one of moderation and balance. It’s not your one hour or so of worship in church; the fellowship is a social exercise which may be supportive and helpful for some; or even a musical one. But what is crucial is the opening up of your entire life to God, sharing all of your activities. The salt that we are to become is the salt that he pours into our lives. And when you do it right, ability grows, in quantity and quality.

All of my life I have seen folk deceive themselves into thinking that feeling is somehow sufficient. But it never is and creates nothing lasting. The end result is what counts. The world is full of illusion; religious talk can be one of the chief culprits. Be aware. Never trust talk. Only the actions count. God gives us free will. We start with our intentions and we pare down the negative – the bias, the prejudice, the weak and useless self-centered habits of mind and body. Danish philosopher Soren Kierkegard once said that purity of heart is to will one thing. Exactly so. Let the one thing be the One God, and we cannot go wrong. Habits create pathways in our brains. Be wary lest we become like the old-fashioned needle stuck in a record groove, playing the same phrase over and over again, repeating itself. You know the phrase – I’m old and I’m set in my ways. But with God, nothing ages, other than the body which is only a temp. form. So change the needle. Or move the needle. Instead of praying brush away the cobwebs of my life, O lord! kill the spider yourself. It’s right there in your will and intent.

Ony then can we begin the amazing  prototokos experiment that much of the so-called Christian world continues to fail at. But Jesus calls us to it. We are no longer influenced by that which the world says is good because we can see beyond it. We don’t have to condemn anything or anyone. Leave them be. They must walk their own path for better or worse. Focus on your own.

Perhaps the worst manifest intent in our lives today is the greed of the humanity that we find ourselves living amongst. Perhaps it’s always been there, but these days with technology the scale is huge! The insatiable need for the meaningless accumulation of personal wealth, power, control. We must all die, but many will find little comfort in what comes after. They have been too intent on making this a hell on earth for so many others when they could do so much good instead. But good-ness is Godliness. It speaks for itself through what it does.

Years ago in the ‘60’s there was this British rock band called Rare Bird, and one of their better known songs was called Sympathy. It said, among other words

‘now half the world hates the other half; and half the world, has all the food; and half the world, lies down and quietly starves; for there’s not enough love to go round.’

Not much has changed or gotten better. So we must walk a different path. And we must find new ways to make things better. The old ways have not worked. Choose your friends carefully. Walk the same journey, and God bless everyone of us, in Jesus’ name. G.

 

 

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